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How’s everyone holdin' up? T3G's therapeutic mental health and general chat thread.

After a twenty year career in the military with four combat tours, a life changing injury as a Deputy Sheriff (6yrs of surgeries), the loss of two parents, two parents in law, an uncle and aunt, brother and sister, nephew and the love of my life all within the last few years. Well I feel safe in saying I feel your pain. What gets me through it all is God, a strong marriage, my dogs, crying when needed and pot. It’s hard keeping all of this shit locked away in their proper boxes.
 
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Ginganeer said:
I’m not really in to the hippie stuff, but has anyone tried meditating? I have used it to control migraines and anxiety and it works well. Everyone is in their own place, but exercise in the AM with meditating in the PM (with meds) works wonders for me. If I skip out for more than a few days I notice immediately.
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I have tried to get into it but I can never put myself in the right mindset.
 
solscooter said:
@Tyler into medicinal weed?
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I’ve dabbled with it but I have a hard time finding the right strain/dose to not end up in an anxiety attack. I’ve been to the point where I’d see negative thoughts physically in front of my eyes. So now I’m kind of afraid of it although I’m still interested in experimenting because I know it does a lot of good things for people.
 
Been down the last few days for no particular reason. Go figure.

Is anyone else’s mood HIGHLY dependent on caffeine? I need to abuse caffeine to get to a functional baseline. It sucks.
 
Tyler said:
I keep wanting to love this for both mental health and my back pain. Sometimes I manage to dose small enough that it isn't so bad. But many times I've (I guess?) smoked too much at once and had absolute panic attacks to the point where I was seeing my own negative thoughts in front of my eyes. But I'm still determined to figure this one out because I'm sure I'm doing something wrong.
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Cannabis can take a little trial and error, from the right dosage to the right strains to the right delivery method.

I don't smoke it because it kills my lungs, but this Double Chocolate Chill fudge really calms me down.

I also use a vaporizer for both oil and flower, and those both offer pretty quick feedback on dosage and effect.
Tyler said:
I go through phases where I neglect the crap out of my truck just because I can't bring myself to do a thing. Recently, I let a new engine air filter sit in the garage for like 3 weeks until I took the 5 seconds to replace the dirty one. So congrats on doing the thing!
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I call that "life". 😀

It takes so much doing to get the initiative to do a thing.... I find that it helps to have a helper. Even if they just sit there drinking beer and telling you where you have/are about to screw up. It just makes me more likely to do the thing when someone else is involved.

Today, though, I am getting my roof rack mounted and a load of junk taken to the dump. I will do these two things. Then, perhaps, I will feel like doing more things.... or not, and that's OK, too.
 
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This thread is kind of
I have a winch in my bumper that isn't wired to the battery and its been that way for 3.5 years?

I have the Anytime Backup Camera sitting in the garage... 1.5 years?
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The PO of my truck put in the basics of the Anytime cam system. Kinda did it weird and not sure how he had it working, but..... that front camera is awesome to have, once I installed it and rewired the rest of the system.

Still need to install the switch and relay for my winch. He had it just zip-tied near the battery to connect when needed.
 
Long story short, I essentially met my wife because her mom died. One of the things she told me her mom used to say was: “You can’t change people, places or things. You can only change how you think about them.”

Something happened in the last week that has shaken me in a way I didn’t think possible. I’m not the first it has happened to and won’t be the last. It wouldn’t even phase some, but to me it’s a big deal.

ANYWAY, my point is that as I go up and down sorting through this I know the downs are from my dwelling on it. It’s been tough to motivate sometimes, but oh well.

I don’t need or want to delve into it because it’s my problem and I’m the only one that can pull myself up.

Shit, I ended up rambling. Hopefully a perspective to help others deal with anything, I use it often (good and bad) is momentum. It goes both ways. When you’re bummed, that’s the way the pendulum is swinging. Being aware of it and stopping the (negative) momentum is huge. It goes both ways. If you’re up (literally and figuratively) it’s easy to keep that momentum going. Recognizing which way your momentum is going is a good tool to have.

That got long, apparently it turned into a flow of thought thing. Hope someone can take at least one tiny part of all that and it’s a help in some tiny way.
 
B_Lui said:
Long story short, I essentially met my wife because her mom died. One of the things she told me her mom used to say was: “You can’t change people, places or things. You can only change how you think about them.”

Something happened in the last week that has shaken me in a way I didn’t think possible. I’m not the first it has happened to and won’t be the last. It wouldn’t even phase some, but to me it’s a big deal.

ANYWAY, my point is that as I go up and down sorting through this I know the downs are from my dwelling on it. It’s been tough to motivate sometimes, but oh well.

I don’t need or want to delve into it because it’s my problem and I’m the only one that can pull myself up.

Shit, I ended up rambling. Hopefully a perspective to help others deal with anything, I use it often (good and bad) is momentum. It goes both ways. When you’re bummed, that’s the way the pendulum is swinging. Being aware of it and stopping the (negative) momentum is huge. It goes both ways. If you’re up (literally and figuratively) it’s easy to keep that momentum going. Recognizing which way your momentum is going is a good tool to have.

That got long, apparently it turned into a flow of thought thing. Hope someone can take at least one tiny part of all that and it’s a help in some tiny way.
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Hey man, not 100% sure what your referencing… but I survived a “dear John” letter while I was deployed. DM me if you ever want to vent about anything. I think your right about pulling yourself up, but it doesn’t mean someone can’t hold the other end of the life ring.
 
Thanks man. Nothing anywhere close to a dear John letter. If you, or anyone reading this ever wants to chat or anything, my DM is always open.

What happened with me, I lost my wedding ring.

I agree, if there is someone on the other end of the life ring (or anything) that can do nothing but add strength, confidence, etc. My wife's mom was also an alcoholic. They had done numerous interventions, rehabs. Nothing helped her until she went to jail and realized for herself the problems and wanted to change.

Over the years I guess I've realized that I am the only one that controls how I feel. Others can have an influence, maybe steer things, but at the end of the day the buck stops with me. Good and bad. I'm the keeper of the keys. I don't think it's necessarily about confidence, but more about awareness. The more aware we are of ourselves, our thoughts and feelings the better and easier it is to keep everything on an even keel.

I heard someone say on a show one time when things got shitty or tough he would say: "I'll quit tomorrow." and by the time tomorrow got there, things always had changed.
 
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fourgotten said:
The PO of my truck put in the basics of the Anytime cam system. Kinda did it weird and not sure how he had it working, but..... that front camera is awesome to have, once I installed it and rewired the rest of the system.

Still need to install the switch and relay for my winch. He had it just zip-tied near the battery to connect when needed.
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The front camera and rear camera adapter are pretty much plug and play right? That’s what makes it worse that I haven’t bothered to do them yet, lol.
 
B_Lui said:
Thanks man. Nothing anywhere close to a dear John letter. If you, or anyone reading this ever wants to chat or anything, my DM is always open.

What happened with me, I lost my wedding ring.

I agree, if there is someone on the other end of the life ring (or anything) that can do nothing but add strength, confidence, etc. My wife's mom was also an alcoholic. They had done numerous interventions, rehabs. Nothing helped her until she went to jail and realized for herself the problems and wanted to change.

Over the years I guess I've realized that I am the only one that controls how I feel. Others can have an influence, maybe steer things, but at the end of the day the buck stops with me. Good and bad. I'm the keeper of the keys. I don't think it's necessarily about confidence, but more about awareness. The more aware we are of ourselves, our thoughts and feelings the better and easier it is to keep everything on an even keel.

I heard someone say on a show one time when things got shitty or tough he would say: "I'll quit tomorrow." and by the time tomorrow got there, things always had changed.
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Solid outlooks.
 
Tyler said:
The front camera and rear camera adapter are pretty much plug and play right? That’s what makes it worse that I haven’t bothered to do them yet, lol.
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The rear one is, for sure (though the PO didn't seem to think that it was, because there is some mystery camera cable coming in around the firewall boot). The front mount is pretty simple, too.

But that executive dysfunction thing is haesh.
 
You know what doesn't help your mental health? Getting fawked in the butt by greedy corporations.

When I left the Marine Corps, Paige and I had to get a storage unit for our stuff. In March 2020, we were priced at $160/month. They have been raising it ever since and now, March 2022... it's $350/month. So tomorrow will be spent moving storage units.
 
Tyler said:
You know what doesn't help your mental health? Getting fawked in the butt by greedy corporations.

When I left the Marine Corps, Paige and I had to get a storage unit for our stuff. In March 2020, we were priced at $160/month. They have been raising it ever since and now, March 2022... it's $350/month. So tomorrow will be spent moving storage units.
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Ugh! That is some bovine feces!!! Basic price gouging, IMNSO.
 
Random work related....

I've been a vet tech for 35 years, and some parts of the job are a lot more difficult than others.

Today, I had to tell someone that their little dog has malignant melanoma. She brought him in 2 weeks ago to have some dental work done (tooth abscess), and after removing the bad tooth, asked her to come back in 2 weeks to check his mouth. Something about the extraction didn't seem right, and the doctor agreed.

So, fast forward to this Monday, 2 weeks after removing his bad tooth, and we find a mass about the size of a cherry in the extraction site. The tumor is so aggressive that he really only has days left.

His owner was so upset...she calls him her "ride or die" buddy, and he's seen her through some really tough times. I'm so sad for her. This is definitely one of those days when I hate my job, and would rather do anything than what I do.
 
C-Dog said:
Random work related....

I've been a vet tech for 35 years, and some parts of the job are a lot more difficult than others.

Today, I had to tell someone that their little dog has malignant melanoma. She brought him in 2 weeks ago to have some dental work done (tooth abscess), and after removing the bad tooth, asked her to come back in 2 weeks to check his mouth. Something about the extraction didn't seem right, and the doctor agreed.

So, fast forward to this Monday, 2 weeks after removing his bad tooth, and we find a mass about the size of a cherry in the extraction site. The tumor is so aggressive that he really only has days left.

His owner was so upset...she calls him her "ride or die" buddy, and he's seen her through some really tough times. I'm so sad for her. This is definitely one of those days when I hate my job, and would rather do anything than what I do.
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That hits me in the heart bad
 
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@C-Dog. try to focus on the good you do. When my Buddy passed unexpectedly from cancer, it was companionate vet techs like you that got me through it. What you do for our 'family' members is very important. Thank you for your 'service'.
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That hits me in the heart bad
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Thank you.

So many times, people in the veterinary profession get accused of being "cold hearted" or "only in it for the money", which is a huge laugh, because NOBODY becomes a vet tech for money. It really helps to hear a "thank you" for doing what is sometimes a thankless, dirty, and heartbreaking job.
 
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Thank you.

So many times, people in the veterinary profession get accused of being "cold hearted" or "only in it for the money", which is a huge laugh, because NOBODY becomes a vet tech for money. It really helps to hear a "thank you" for doing what is sometimes a thankless, dirty, and heartbreaking job.
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Thank you.

So many times, people in the veterinary profession get accused of being "cold hearted" or "only in it for the money", which is a huge laugh, because NOBODY becomes a vet tech for money. It really helps to hear a "thank you" for doing what is sometimes a thankless, dirty, and heartbreaking job.
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I’ve got a really close friend in the same industry (she was just in Vegas for some huge conf). I don’t know how she does it. She’s one of the kindest people I know. I don’t know how anyone with a heart can handle any of that shit. People are horrible. Animals are the best.
 
Man oh man. This dialysis treatment is not going to be fun. I started my "training" on wednesday. Yesterday was a full day of fills and drains.

During treatment I'll go to work with 2500 cc's of fluid (doing the work of my non functioning kidneys), then come home and drain that out. Throughout the night I'll have multiple fluid exchanges.

So basically myself nor my wife will have a life. I'll need to be home by 7 daily, take a shower, get the machine ready and be hooked up for the exchange process for 8-10 hrs. Early morning it will fill with 2500 cc's for my work shift. Then come home and start all over. Being that I work so early, the nurse said I'll need to plan for getting up an hour earlier (which would be 4) to prepare for the day.

This is going to be highly taxing on me. Hopefully we can get all this testing done with the VA and get on the transplant list asap. I've done quite a bit of lab work so far. Here's whats left:

Cardiolgist
Pulmonary Specialist
Sleep Study
Dental
Vision
Physic Eval

I'm sure there will be more. Tacoma mods will stop for now. Hoping to get some trail time soon to help relieve this stress.
 
TCOTUE said:
Man oh man. This dialysis treatment is not going to be fun. I started my "training" on wednesday. Yesterday was a full day of fills and drains.

During treatment I'll go to work with 2500 cc's of fluid (doing the work of my non functioning kidneys), then come home and drain that out. Throughout the night I'll have multiple fluid exchanges.

So basically myself nor my wife will have a life. I'll need to be home by 7 daily, take a shower, get the machine ready and be hooked up for the exchange process for 8-10 hrs. Early morning it will fill with 2500 cc's for my work shift. Then come home and start all over. Being that I work so early, the nurse said I'll need to plan for getting up an hour earlier (which would be 4) to prepare for the day.

This is going to be highly taxing on me. Hopefully we can get all this testing done with the VA and get on the transplant list asap. I've done quite a bit of lab work so far. Here's whats left:

Cardiolgist
Pulmonary Specialist
Sleep Study
Dental
Vision
Physic Eval

I'm sure there will be more. Tacoma mods will stop for now. Hoping to get some trail time soon to help relieve this stress.
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Hang strong man! We'll add you to the family prayer list as well.
 
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