How’s everyone holdin' up? T3G's therapeutic mental health and general chat thread.

[bonifacio]

I have thought about it, but I don't play enough tbh. I maybe play 2 days a week.

If you're near a PC or phone/tablet, Discord isn't just for game. Sort of like a chat room or an open/ongoing chat. Go in, shoot the shit. Could be about anything.

 

[TCOTUE]

If you're near a PC or phone/tablet, Discord isn't just for game. Sort of like a chat room or an open/ongoing chat. Go in, shoot the shit. Could be about anything.

Downloading now

 

[TCOTUE]

If you're near a PC or phone/tablet, Discord isn't just for game. Sort of like a chat room or an open/ongoing chat. Go in, shoot the shit. Could be about anything.

LMK what your discord is! I'll add you, wonder who else uses it? New thread maybe?

 

[bonifacio]

LMK what your discord is! I'll add you, wonder who else uses it? New thread maybe?

I'll get that to you tonight. Stuck at work.

 

[TCOTUE]

Checking in with everyone! I'm doing pretty good now. No dialysis yet, but DR found out my thyroid was not functioning. Got me on some meds for that. Let me tell you, I swear I've never had this much energy. Dr said I should see a pretty good boost in energy after starting this med.

Just wanted to see how everyone else is holding up!

 

[Bird dog]

Checking in with everyone! I'm doing pretty good now. No dialysis yet, but DR found out my thyroid was not functioning. Got me on some meds for that. Let me tell you, I swear I've never had this much energy. Dr said I should see a pretty good boost in energy after starting this med.

Just wanted to see how everyone else is holding up!

Outstanding!

 

[black_taco]

I’m doing great since leaving my bullshit, beyond stressful job selling auto/home insurance. Told the place to screw off and took on two part time custodian jobs.

 

[Wellspring]

Great (but I'll get better...)!!

Got word from my cardiologist after some tests that my "Ticker" is running 100%, and no problems. Best Xmas present one could get.

 

[Dirtboy2009]

It's so good to hear positive news. I'm very happy that all three of you are doing better. It will be a great Christmas and a Happy New Year.

 

[Gtazz67]

Wife and myself have been struggling recently with making sure we'll be ok on funds during my recovery. Heading in tomorrow to have the dialysis port placed. I'll be out of work for a week or so. Then once my numbers decline further, I'll actually start dialysis. Once I've been on dialysis, I'll get thrown in the list for pancreas and kidney transplant.

With all this being said, my Dr has advised me that I'll be off work for a minimum for 9 months for recovery. I've struggled with what to do for money and it may lead to me selling the Tacoma to save the payment. Once everything is back to about as normal as it can be, I'll buy another one. It just sucks, but I may have to do it. Just makes financial sense to me. Work will have me on long term disability, but that doesn't kick in until after 90 days. So I'll be out of work for 3 months with out a pay check, and I don't think we can survive on just my wifes income. This is all very stressful, and I want to help as much as I can. I've asked about possibly working remote at work, but given my job it's probably not gonna happen. We weren't planning on me being out of work that long, we had planned on 6 months max for recovery. We will be calling the transplant center in KC on friday to get more details on recovery time and what I could actually be looking at realistically.

Sorry for the long rant, it's still just quite a lot to take in. I appreciate you guys listening.

I’m new here and am just roaming around reading random posts while @ work lol but I have nothing but the utmost respect for anyone that’s been in the military, I know I should’ve enlisted when I was a kid and maybe wouldn’t had been such a F up but I lived through my childhood and made it to 54 now, But anyway after reading what you wrote about $$$ I just thought I’d throw out a suggestion? Have you ever considered doing a “Go fund me page”? I knew someone that did it a few years back when they were having issues financially and it really helped them a LOT and out food on the table so just a thought from a complete stranger but if you haven’t thought about it than kick it around & maybe it’ll help ya ?? Either way I got one wish you the best and thank you for your service. Stay safe merry Christmas & god bless.

 

[bonifacio]

Continuation from here: https://tacoma3g.com/threads/addiction.12768/#post-81231

Still being impulsive and making purchases.
Example: I have a dash mount setup in the truck. Couple hundred into it from same behavior. Kept changing up configurations and kept finding better options.
Then have the old stuff sitting around. Delaying putting the effort to selling it at a loss.

Wanted a new phone. No reason. Can't find a 512GB P6Pro in stock. Have to switch it up again. Optimizing every little thing and part of a dumb mount. Continuously upgrading every part of it for minimal benefit to go cleaner and increase quality of life. Of course every little item is only individual by specific vendors. Shipping costs. Quality parts being expensive for the dumbest thing. Some things like the charger mount and phone case are proprietary. They only work with each other. So another case wouldn't work. So something like a case swap would require another change unless I find legacy models in that series. I have to dump all my wireless chargers around the house. Mous magnetic charger. Finding cord clips to tidy everything up. Random ass hardware. The amount of time put into scouring the internet for things that may not even exist. I think I finally settled on how I want it. Whenever I am able to find one, it'll sit in an Aramid Fiber case with magnets that will allow the phone to charge rapidly. Ditching the clamps. Figure something out to attach the charger itself to the arms. I prefer a hard mount over a 17mm mount due to aesthetics. But it might be my only option. Might try to make my own back plate for one of 67D's mounts. Already have the wiring done and out of the way. Cables are UNI braided cables.

Have a Tackform clamp mount for the iPad that I tried to check PornHub on once. Haven't seen my iPad in 3 months. I had to find it to get measurements to course out a similar mounting solution. Couldn't find it. Checked the entire house and truck repeatedly. In places I already searched and spots that it couldn't possible fit in. I'd search, take a 5-10 minute break and start back up. This continuously cycled for about 3 hours. I can remember the most detailed insignificant things from years ago, but I can't find my phone, wallet or keys if I misplace them. I couldn't even remember what side I parked on at work. I literally search for things for work. Official title being "Cell Search". Took on some anxiety and wasn't able to go to sleep. Turns out it was right in front of me under a piece of paper. Planning out how to mount the iPad had to wait until today.

I've had a Garmin 67W sitting around for months now. Dongar SimpleUSB adapter. But I want it cleaner. Slap on another $30 for a custom PnP one-off harness and maintain factory wiring to be made so I don't have to look at even thought it'll be behind the mirror. Adapter arm since I can make the mounting solution no seamless. Fabricating a way to clean that up by designing something for between a cover and flange mount. Bolt size might be too small for the pass through and could move around. Making an adapter for inside the mount that will hold the existing cover/mirror to be secured in addition to the add-on flange. Then worrying about the head of the bolt being flush and wide enough to catch the flange which goes inside the flange adapter. Just all the things before even figure out bolt size and taking it apart. This being "extra" bullshit since no one did it this way. Which is super clean and could possibly make a kit for it for resale as it's highly modular. It will "TNSLPPTSO".

Crazy how something so simple turns into a process that lasts days, nights, weeks. It just keeps going and going. Never stops. Overall mental health has improved. Generally feel better. Haven't hit a low moment in a while. Maybe I'm stressed and overwhelmed by nuisance projects. Could be from using the CPAP and being able to keep it on longer than ever before. Not eating right and dehydrated. House is a mess. Considering hiring someone to de-clutter organize the place because I have so much stuff. Work sucks. Mandates for surprise double shifts or shifts on days off every 2-3 days really burnt me out. Seems to have improved, but it's so volatile. Have to run for now. Thanks for the vent spot and to anyone who let me feel heard.

 

[406Camper]

Hang in there Chris. I research the crap out of things too (I actually do this for a living for the military), and when it's my own stuff often nothing comes from it. I call it analysis paralysis. But don't be too hard on yourself. Stay strong my friend! PS. I second the woodworking hobby. Solitude and focusing on one thing (not cutting off my hand) is helpful.

 

[solscooter]

I haven't been motivated at all to do much on the truck, things that need to be fixed. I have to fix the 3rd brake light since all the KC hilites took a dump. The pop n lock just started not working all the time (im sure that its the sub zero temps and it just needs to get lubed). My switch pro is acting up and I don't want to find out why.....the list goes on and on. I just can't bring myself to do any of it.

 

[bonifacio]

I get the same way. Sometimes I just have to start part of it. Then the accomplishment from small tasks take over and use that as drive. That's how it is for me. Just takes a lot to take that first step.

 

[Ginganeer]

I purchased my truck a while back, got really excited about getting back out in the trails again and then things went to shit. Like many others in the Covid world, I found myself unable to cope with the stresses of day to day life, concurrent to going through a divorce.

Talked to a family member that (after reading many of these posts) has a similar history to @Tyler. Contrary to the cultural standard of men just need to tough it out, he encouraged me to go talk to someone. It was the scariest thing I have ever done, and against everything that I was engrained with in the military. I have similar issues as some of you have with regard to connecting with others, be it a therapist, small group, or friends of friends. People just don’t seem to get it. But talking to people is the best thing I have ever found to process and work through things.

Someone had the courage to share their story and it made a positive impact on my life. Everyone that has shared their experience here (that I have been reading the last hour) have had a similar effect. Thanks for putting yourselves out there. Vulnerability is the heart of leadership (contrary to what the military thinks).

Not to steal a thread, but if anyone is looking to constantly accelerate and find a way to keep this sort of thing up you should check out F3 Nation. There are hundreds of men going through similar stuff. Have to wake up early for the workouts, but it is totally worth it (and free!) “Leave no man behind, but leave no man where you found them”

I struggle every week. Weighing the costs of my decisions and poor coping mechanisms (the addiction thread led me here…) to the need to be there for my children and the men I committed to leading the next day. One day at a time.

If anyone wants to talk, hit me up.

 

[solscooter]

I get the same way. Sometimes I just have to start part of it. Then the accomplishment from small tasks take over and use that as drive. That's how it is for me. Just takes a lot to take that first step.

its been over 2 years. i guess i better take that small step soon

 

[Meclizine]

Like many others in the Covid world, I found myself unable to cope with the stresses of day to day life, concurrent to going through a divorce.

I asked for a divorce less than a month before Covid hit the US. Guess who I sheltered in place with? Fun times. I still haven't recovered to be honest. I guess I'm trying to carve out a little piece of new normal for myself. I'm just so thankful I don't have kids. Hell, I had to psych myself up to getting a few plants, that's the level of commitment I'm comfortable with right now.

 

[Tyler]

There might be more of us without kids than I thought. Not that it matters either way.

 

[Ginganeer]

I asked for a divorce less than a month before Covid hit the US. Guess who I sheltered in place with? Fun times. I still haven't recovered to be honest. I guess I'm trying to carve out a little piece of new normal for myself. I'm just so thankful I don't have kids. Hell, I had to psych myself up to getting a few plants, that's the level of commitment I'm comfortable with right now.

It was a few months into Covid for me. Nothing like living on opposite ends of the house unable to act on anything aside from doing paperwork. I don’t think I realized how much that impacted me until I couldn’t even think about camping without being overwhelmed.

 

[TCOTUE]

It's been a very mentally taxing month or so. Jan 2nd while I was asleep my blood sugar dropped. My wife woke me up to drink some apple juice (typically it brings me up 30 points or so). My dexcom (continuous glucose meter) had went off at 63. Wife brought my juice in and noticed I wasn't all there. Immediately started to have a seizure. She called 911, Police/Fire/EMT's were at the house within 5 min (so I'm told). When the EMT's checked my blood sugar, their meter showed 58, where mine showed 87ish. Finally coming out of the seizure, I got loaded up in the ambulance and headed to the hospital. I'll note here, I don't remember any of this at all. Getting into a normal room and finally waking up, being able to comprehend things. Dr's said I had a Grand Mal seizure. They did a lot of tests, but no permanent damage was done thank god. My wife is mentally scared from this for sure. My endocrinologist made some changes to my insulin pump and I've been golden since then.

Before this episode, I started having some pain on my left side from the previous surgery to place my dialysis port. Getting in to the see the surgeon, they said I had a pretty bad infection requiring another surgery. This time they had to "externalize" my dialysis port to be ready to use. I want to say this was mid December. Since this was externalized I have to have the port flushed weekly. Also this moves up my dialysis start time to sometime soon (end of Feb, beginning of March). I wasn't planning on starting until April, but whatever I'm alive.

I should really have my internet and cell service because reading horror stories of kidney/pancreas transplants is scary as hell. I struggle most days to deal with whats about to happen. But my wife and close family has helped me through it. I still have a long road ahead of me, hopefully everything works out but we'll have to just wait and see.

My wife says I'm pretty morbid about the whole thing, as I've told her the story about the EOD tech describing his job. I always say, "it's either going to be my problem, or suddenly it's not".

 

[solscooter]

It's been a very mentally taxing month or so. Jan 2nd while I was asleep my blood sugar dropped. My wife woke me up to drink some apple juice (typically it brings me up 30 points or so). My dexcom (continuous glucose meter) had went off at 63. Wife brought my juice in and noticed I wasn't all there. Immediately started to have a seizure. She called 911, Police/Fire/EMT's were at the house within 5 min (so I'm told). When the EMT's checked my blood sugar, their meter showed 58, where mine showed 87ish. Finally coming out of the seizure, I got loaded up in the ambulance and headed to the hospital. I'll note here, I don't remember any of this at all. Getting into a normal room and finally waking up, being able to comprehend things. Dr's said I had a Grand Mal seizure. They did a lot of tests, but no permanent damage was done thank god. My wife is mentally scared from this for sure. My endocrinologist made some changes to my insulin pump and I've been golden since then.

Before this episode, I started having some pain on my left side from the previous surgery to place my dialysis port. Getting in to the see the surgeon, they said I had a pretty bad infection requiring another surgery. This time they had to "externalize" my dialysis port to be ready to use. I want to say this was mid December. Since this was externalized I have to have the port flushed weekly. Also this moves up my dialysis start time to sometime soon (end of Feb, beginning of March). I wasn't planning on starting until April, but whatever I'm alive.

I should really have my internet and cell service because reading horror stories of kidney/pancreas transplants is scary as hell. I struggle most days to deal with whats about to happen. But my wife and close family has helped me through it. I still have a long road ahead of me, hopefully everything works out but we'll have to just wait and see.

My wife says I'm pretty morbid about the whole thing, as I've told her the story about the EOD tech describing his job. I always say, "it's either going to be my problem, or suddenly it's not".

Type 1 or 2. I was in the icu a few years ago for keto acidosis. Apparently I wasn’t worried about it as I should have been. It was touch and go for a few days

 

[TCOTUE]

Type 1 or 2. I was in the icu a few years ago for keto acidosis. Apparently I wasn’t worried about it as I should have been. It was touch and go for a few days

I'm Type 1. I have a dexcom and Omnipod (insulin pump). I've been DKA once, and it wasn't fun. Currently in kidney failure.

 

[solscooter]

I'm Type 1. I have a dexcom and Omnipod (insulin pump). I've been DKA once, and it wasn't fun. Currently in kidney failure.

I’m type 2 being treated as 1 as it’s so severe. Got my freestyle libre. Ending has mentioned a pump but I’m reluctant. Sorry to hear about the failure, that sucks

 

[TCOTUE]

I’m type 2 being treated as 1 as it’s so severe. Got my freestyle libre. Ending has mentioned a pump but I’m reluctant. Sorry to hear about the failure, that sucks

The pump was a game changer for me. Omnipod is releasing the 5 this spring it's supposed to have full control, and be able to treat highs, suspend delivery during lows. Right now I have to tell it when to bolus, and manually stop during a low.

 

[Tyler]

I have been asked a few times about how people can donate to me without needing to buy a sticker. I was asked again recently and this was my reply:

Wow, thanks for this. That really means a lot to me.

To be honest, funds have been kind of tight and because I pay for the site out of pocket (and sometimes the prizes for Rig of the Month), I've been wondering what I should do.

I could create a way to let people "subscribe" or just make a single larger donation. I'm just not sure how comfortable I am asking for that.

This has been something on my mind for a while. I never made T3G to try to profit from it. And I definitely didn't make it to monetize it with ads (that will never happen). But I recently had to spend a lot of savings on some unexpected stuff. I can continue to pay for T3G myself, but because I've been asked this question a handful of times, I wonder if now is a good time to offer some type of reoccurring or large donation option. I just feel guilty even considering that.

 

[Dirtboy2009]

I haven't been motivated at all to do much on the truck, things that need to be fixed. I have to fix the 3rd brake light since all the KC hilites took a dump. The pop n lock just started not working all the time (im sure that its the sub zero temps and it just needs to get lubed). My switch pro is acting up and I don't want to find out why.....the list goes on and on. I just can't bring myself to do any of it.

One step at a time.

 

[Biohazard]

I have been asked a few times about how people can donate to me without needing to buy a sticker. I was asked again recently and this was my reply:


This has been something on my mind for a while. I never made T3G to try to profit from it. And I definitely didn't make it to monetize it with ads (that will never happen). But I recently had to spend a lot of savings on some unexpected stuff. I can continue to pay for T3G myself, but because I've been asked this question a handful of times, I wonder if now is a good time to offer some type of reoccurring or large donation option. I just feel guilty even considering that.

Naa. Don't feel guilty. We all benefit from this site, I for one would be happy to chip in regularly.

 

[fourgotten]

I have been asked a few times about how people can donate to me without needing to buy a sticker. I was asked again recently and this was my reply:


This has been something on my mind for a while. I never made T3G to try to profit from it. And I definitely didn't make it to monetize it with ads (that will never happen). But I recently had to spend a lot of savings on some unexpected stuff. I can continue to pay for T3G myself, but because I've been asked this question a handful of times, I wonder if now is a good time to offer some type of reoccurring or large donation option. I just feel guilty even considering that.

I'm with Biohazard. This site helps a lot of people, and you don't need to shoulder all of the financial burden yourself.

I know that I'd be willing to drop a little dosh on you for making this available.

I didn't see this thread, earlier... but now that I have, I'm going to have to process some stuff.

 

[Bird dog]

Check out the way overland bound.com raises money. It is basically a member based site with an initial membership charge. They also have a marketplace were they offer everything from hats to axes.

 

[Meclizine]

This might sound corny but I recommend You're Doing Great! by Tom Papa. It's a comedy special on Netflix that made me feel a lot better.