How’s everyone holdin' up? T3G's therapeutic mental health and general chat thread.

[Tyler]

It seems like YouTube added WAY more commercials in the middle of videos over the last few weeks.

 

[Tacomadad18]

It seems like YouTube added WAY more commercials in the middle of videos over the last few weeks.

Oh it’s ridiculous. So many ads now. They are banking off most everyone being home and watching more videos.

 

[Tyler]

Oh it’s ridiculous. So many ads now. They are banking off most everyone being home and watching more videos.

Does the content creator decide where to place the ads in their videos? And how many of them there should be?

 

[Tacomadad18]

Does the content creator decide where to place the ads in their videos? And how many of them there should be?

Yeah, they can pick at the end or beginning and how many. I think it depends on the ad too and the length of the video matters too. If it’s too short you can only do so many.

 

[Tyler]

Some of them have 3, maybe 4. For the longer videos. I wonder if that means they are making serious bank because they have the extra ads.

 

[Tacomadad18]

Some of them have 3, maybe 4. For the longer videos. I wonder if that means they are making serious bank because they have the extra ads.

kinda, it also depends on how long the ad is watched. If it’s the normal 5 second then skip you obviously make less than a full 1:30 or 1 min watch.

 

[Tyler]

On the topic of mental health: I don't want to bring it up again, but I have overwhelming anxiety from what happened earlier with the troll. I know I shouldn't be worrying or still thinking about it. But this is anxiety for ya.

 

[Tacomadad18]

On the topic of mental health: I don't want to bring it up again, but I have overwhelming anxiety from what happened earlier with the troll. I know I shouldn't be worrying or still thinking about it. But this is anxiety for ya.

Not trying to take away the focus of your post but I do the same man. My wife always catches me worrying about little stuff like that, even when it’s not “that big of a deal”. Well honey I worry about crap like that. Idk why lol.

 

[CBrob]

On the topic of mental health: I don't want to bring it up again, but I have overwhelming anxiety from what happened earlier with the troll. I know I shouldn't be worrying or still thinking about it. But this is anxiety for ya.

Jeez laweez...
Thanks for handling it.
He was doing the opposite of what this thread is about.
If I'm doing T3G right y'all will never know anything about my political beliefs.
It's so irrelevant to having fun with our trucks. Its counter to why we are here.

 

[Mr. Nobody]

I upgraded to the youtube premium when Cobra Kai came out. Now we get commercial free video and music downloader too.

Premium has been pretty good on the trial I'm running right now. Not sure if I'll pay for the subscription though.

Cobra Kai was pretty good. The first season was solid but the second just turned into a lack of communication drama.

Edit: also in regards to what we watch on YouTube...
Expedition Overland was great during their earlier seasons. Pan-American highway and Dalton stuff.
Lifestyle Overland
Adventure 4ward
4WDAction, 4WD 24/7

 

[Tyler]

https://tacoma3g.com/rules/#post-57839

 

[Cornholio]

LMAO!! That’s exactly the way I am some days.

 

[Tuglife]

Hey guys I’m late to the party but I’m an open book. If anyone needs anything you guys can reach out to me anytime. Sometimes it’s easier to talk to someone you don’t know. Someone who won’t pass judgement on to your friends or family. Just a little background for you guys. I work a weird schedule. 3 weeks on 3 weeks off. I’m with the guys at work literally more than we are with our own families. Missing birthdays, holidays, everything. It takes a toll on some people. Plus the work schedule of 6 hours on 6 hours off is horrible on the body and mental health. In my short time doing this I got Pretty good at separating my work life from my home life luckily for me. Not so luckily for the people at home. I’ll go weeks without making phone calls and sometimes days without even sending a text. It’s just my way of coping and it’s what works for me right now. It might not work next year. So all in all if anyone needs anything there’s a good chance I’ll be awake at all times of the day or within a few hours.

 

[Tacomadad18]

Hey guys I’m late to the party but I’m an open book. If anyone needs anything you guys can reach out to me anytime. Sometimes it’s easier to talk to someone you don’t know. Someone who won’t pass judgement on to your friends or family. Just a little background for you guys. I work a weird schedule. 3 weeks on 3 weeks off. I’m with the guys at work literally more than we are with our own families. Missing birthdays, holidays, everything. It takes a toll on some people. Plus the work schedule of 6 hours on 6 hours off is horrible on the body and mental health. In my short time doing this I got Pretty good at separating my work life from my home life luckily for me. Not so luckily for the people at home. I’ll go weeks without making phone calls and sometimes days without even sending a text. It’s just my way of coping and it’s what works for me right now. It might not work next year. So all in all if anyone needs anything there’s a good chance I’ll be awake at all times of the day or within a few hours.

That is wild. I couldn’t imagine 3 weeks gone with not seeing my boys. Good on your for being able to deal with that. Someone’s got to do it!

 

[Tuglife]

That is wild. I couldn’t imagine 3 weeks gone with not seeing my boys. Good on your for being able to deal with that. Someone’s got to do it!

It’s real rough on some of them 3 out of 8 of us have kids under 2. One just turned 2 today and the guy actually got to go home today. Right now me with no kids sees it as 24/7 for 3 weeks with the kids. Instead of a few hours a day on a Monday through Friday job. But I’m not in the situation so it’s way easier for me to say it thank actually live it... I’m actually pulling a 9 week straight this time to make a foreign trip. Something about being in the middle of the ocean and watching the sun rise and set everyday amazes me. Looking up at the stars with absolutely no light pollution is life changing and I’m lucky I get to do it often.

 

[Tacomadad18]

It’s real rough on some of them 3 out of 8 of us have kids under 2. One just turned 2 today and the guy actually got to go home today. Right now me with no kids sees it as 24/7 for 3 weeks with the kids. Instead of a few hours a day on a Monday through Friday job. But I’m not in the situation so it’s way easier for me to say it thank actually live it... I’m actually pulling a 9 week straight this time to make a foreign trip. Something about being in the middle of the ocean and watching the sun rise and set everyday amazes me. Looking up at the stars with absolutely no light pollution is life changing and I’m lucky I get to do it often.

So I apologize if you’ve said it already, what kinda tug work do you do? (If that’s even reference for what you do)

That sounds like something not many get to experience and would have its own cool factor to it.

 

[Tuglife]

So I apologize if you’ve said it already, what kinda tug work do you do? (If that’s even reference for what you do)

That sounds like something not many get to experience and would have its own cool factor to it.

Offshore tug and barges. We move oil products all over the East and gulf coast. It’s definitely different. The off time is the best. Next year I’ll be planning on a cross country trip. And every 3 weeks I’ll just stop wherever and fly to work. Then fly back and pick up right where I left off.

 

[Cornholio]

I’m in my 50s and I’ve been dealing with depression/social anxiety for many years. I’ve been on and off many Meds and had my share of counseling as well. Many years ago before I sought help I would self medicate with alcohol and became a functioning alcoholic. When I first started taking the meds I was still drinking so the meds just didn’t work really. There were many times I didn’t think I could make it to the next day. One morning after waking up after my millionth black out drunk episode my wife finally said that was it and she said if I didn’t stop her and my 3 girls were gone. For me that’s all it took. 13 yrs ago I stopped drinking and finally at some point I decided my mental health was more important than anything else... Because if I’m not well I cannot be a good husband and father and a better person. It’s still a battle from time to time but I never give up. Sometimes it takes time for me to realize that my meds aren’t working or I need some counseling but I have a better understanding nowadays. Here as of late I have noticed that things just aren’t quite right and my episodes have been way more frequent. Today I made an appointment with my psychiatrist to look into what may be going on. You know a lot of times we men just don’t want to admit that we can’t fix something. I am definitely like that BUT not with my mental health. Point being do not let things like this control your life. Seek help!! There is NO shame in trying to make yourself better. Keep at it. Life can and is a wonderful thing.

 

[Tacomadad18]

Offshore tug and barges. We move oil products all over the East and gulf coast. It’s definitely different. The off time is the best. Next year I’ll be planning on a cross country trip. And every 3 weeks I’ll just stop wherever and fly to work. Then fly back and pick up right where I left off.

That’s cool. Sounds like that would be tailored for a single person with no kids but I get it. Some people do it, and I’m sure it takes a toll on anyone.

Now that would be different. I’ve been in the same state my whole life and rarely travel (not cause I don’t want to, just can’t find the time) that would be incredible to me lol

 

[Tyler]

I’m in my 50s and I’ve been dealing with depression/social anxiety for many years. I’ve been on and off many Meds and had my share of counseling as well. Many years ago before I sought help I would self medicate with alcohol and became a functioning alcoholic. When I first started taking the meds I was still drinking so the meds just didn’t work really. There were many times I didn’t think I could make it to the next day. One morning after waking up after my millionth black out drunk episode my wife finally said that was it and she said if I didn’t stop her and my 3 girls were gone. For me that’s all it took. 13 yrs ago I stopped drinking and finally at some point I decided my mental health was more important than anything else... Because if I’m not well I cannot be a good husband and father and a better person. It’s still a battle from time to time but I never give up. Sometimes it takes time for me to realize that my meds aren’t working or I need some counseling but I have a better understanding nowadays. Here as of late I have noticed that things just aren’t quite right and my episodes have been way more frequent. Today I made an appointment with my psychiatrist to look into what may be going on. You know a lot of times we men just don’t want to admit that we can’t fix something. I am definitely like that BUT not with my mental health. Point being do not let things like this control your life. Seek help!! There is NO shame in trying to make yourself better. Keep at it. Life can and is a wonderful thing.

From experience, dialing in on meds is a long and shitty process. You need to figure out what you need, then start taking them, then wait for "something" to happen, then figure out the correct dose to stay at, then deal with any side effects. You already know this though. I've been through so many options over the years but I think I might be dialed now (as of a year ago).

I never got too much into drinking besides a social buzz while camping and such. The times I've been too drunk have been enough for me to just about hate drinking. But that sweet spot with the initial buzz is definitely something that makes me feel "better" until I go a little too far and start to feel much more depressed.

When I got out of the military I thought medical weed would fix all my problems from what I heard about it. I thought it would fix mental health and even help my chronic back pain. Instead it made my anxiety go to insane levels to the point where I was literally seeing my terrifying thoughts in front of my face. They would scare the hell out of me and cause me to start panicking. So medical weed is out.

 

[MJ'sTacoma]

Past couple of months have been shitty to say the least, In early June I lost my father after a 3 year battle with cancer. Being 19 and the middle child I was always kind of left in the dark about his sickness and my older brother was always the one that really new the truth about everything. I really came to find out how bad the situation was when I privately spoke to him about a month before his passing and he told me that he was holding on until my youngest brothers birthday then he would be "free to go." The emptiness is well unexplainable. He started it all, he sparked the fire and paved the way for me and my family into the outdoors, I always heard of him going off road back home in Venezuela which is where I am from. But never experienced it myself. He brought it into our lives and at first it was cool and all but I didn't think about owning a truck I liked cars more back in the day. Little did I know how it would affect my life. The best memories I have with him are in the middle of nowhere just chilling. I credit to my dad everything I have now and the person I am today.

I was naturally more mechanically inclined than anyone in my family so I was always under the truck with my dad helping him in any way I could. This made our relationship very close as we essentially spoke a different language, we could spend hours speaking about anything to do with /modding the trucks. I was always excited to get truck parts because I knew id be installing them with him by my side, this is one of the things that have really messed me up mentally. the getting truck parts arriving in the mail with no one to show them to, or the moments we spent together working on either his 4runner or my taco.

Here are some pics of his 4runnner which still remains in my family and always will.

 

[Tacomadad18]

Past couple of months have been shitty to say the least, In early June I lost my father after a 3 year battle with cancer. Being 19 and the middle child I was always kind of left in the dark about his sickness and my older brother was always the one that really new the truth about everything. I really came to find out how bad the situation was when I privately spoke to him about a month before his passing and he told me that he was holding on until my youngest brothers birthday then he would be "free to go." The emptiness is well unexplainable. He started it all, he sparked the fire and paved the way for me and my family into the outdoors, I always heard of him going off road back home in Venezuela which is where I am from. But never experienced it myself. He brought it into our lives and at first it was cool and all but I didn't think about owning a truck I liked cars more back in the day. Little did I know how it would affect my life. The best memories I have with him are in the middle of nowhere just chilling. I credit to my dad everything I have now and the person I am today.

I was naturally more mechanically inclined than anyone in my family so I was always under the truck with my dad helping him in any way I could. This made our relationship very close as we essentially spoke a different language, we could spend hours speaking about anything to do with /modding the trucks. I was always excited to get truck parts because I knew id be installing them with him by my side, this is one of the things that have really messed me up mentally. the getting truck parts arriving in the mail with no one to show them to, or the moments we spent together working on either his 4runner or my taco.

Here are some pics of his 4runnner which still remains in my family and always will.

Very sorry to hear this. Hope you and your family are able to become even closer through this. It is a wonderful thing to have a father that teaches you a skill set you won’t forget.

Continue to do those things you both enjoyed doing together!

 

[Mr. Nobody]

Past couple of months have been shitty to say the least, In early June I lost my father after a 3 year battle with cancer. Being 19 and the middle child I was always kind of left in the dark about his sickness and my older brother was always the one that really new the truth about everything. I really came to find out how bad the situation was when I privately spoke to him about a month before his passing and he told me that he was holding on until my youngest brothers birthday then he would be "free to go." The emptiness is well unexplainable. He started it all, he sparked the fire and paved the way for me and my family into the outdoors, I always heard of him going off road back home in Venezuela which is where I am from. But never experienced it myself. He brought it into our lives and at first it was cool and all but I didn't think about owning a truck I liked cars more back in the day. Little did I know how it would affect my life. The best memories I have with him are in the middle of nowhere just chilling. I credit to my dad everything I have now and the person I am today.

I was naturally more mechanically inclined than anyone in my family so I was always under the truck with my dad helping him in any way I could. This made our relationship very close as we essentially spoke a different language, we could spend hours speaking about anything to do with /modding the trucks. I was always excited to get truck parts because I knew id be installing them with him by my side, this is one of the things that have really messed me up mentally. the getting truck parts arriving in the mail with no one to show them to, or the moments we spent together working on either his 4runner or my taco.

Here are some pics of his 4runnner which still remains in my family and always will.

I am incredibly sorry for your loss. Your Dad sounds like he was an incredible guy and he had crazy good taste in vehicle builds. Cherish the memories you have of the times with him and always remember that love of mechanical goodies that he helped build into your being.

I know it'll never be the same, but you can damn sure show off those new build parts here and I guarantee we will always want to talk about them.

 

[MJ'sTacoma]

I am incredibly sorry for your loss. Your Dad sounds like he was an incredible guy and he had crazy good taste in vehicle builds. Cherish the memories you have of the times with him and always remember that love of mechanical goodies that he helped build into your being.

I know it'll never be the same, but you can damn sure show off those new build parts here and I guarantee we will always want to talk about them.

Very sorry to hear this. Hope you and your family are able to become even closer through this. It is a wonderful thing to have a father that teaches you a skill set you won’t forget.

Continue to do those things you both enjoyed doing together!

Thanks guys, took some time to grow the pair to write that but its kind of therapeutic for me to write. Thanks guys!

 

[ArmyNiteRyder]

So just to share...one of the things I enjoy when I need an escape. I like woodworking and building stuff. I got a wild hair across my ass yesterday, and went to Ikea on the weekend (stupid of me cuz I hate crowds) but still braved to crowd to go get a cubby shelf for my kiddos room. Put shelf together and was like I know I can make this way cooler. So then my gears were grinding laying in bed. I decided my kid needed a loft bed. Lol. Not done yet, but it’s getting there. Still have to build steps and a platform off to the left side.
only into it for about $170 total so far. Because I know everyone loves pictures, Here are the pics.

 

[Tyler]

So just to share...one of the things I enjoy when I need an escape. I like woodworking and building stuff. I got a wild hair across my ass yesterday, and went to Ikea on the weekend (stupid of me cuz I hate crowds) but still braved to crowd to go get a cubby shelf for my kiddos room. Put shelf together and was like I know I can make this way cooler. So then my gears were grinding laying in bed. I decided my kid needed a loft bed. Lol. Not done yet, but it’s getting there. Still have to build steps and a platform off to the left side.
only into it for about $170 total so far. Because I know everyone loves pictures, Here are the pics.

You did make that way cooler. That type of fort is so fun as a kid. I hope I learn some impressive woodworking stuff eventually.

 

[ArmyNiteRyder]

You did make that way cooler. That type of fort is so fun as a kid. I hope I learn some impressive woodworking stuff eventually.

Thanks! I helped build my folks house from ground up with my Grandfather. Not a bad way to spend a summer before high school, shit, 24 years ago. Lol. Been into building stuff since. My kid loves airplanes and reading, so put the 2 together a couple of years back.

 

[midnight20pro]

That's awesome! I can't find the link, but there used to be somewhere online that had instructions for building completely new Ikea furniture by mixing existing Ikea kits. I think what you built looks like one of the main concepts they used to share. Well done!

So just to share...one of the things I enjoy when I need an escape. I like woodworking and building stuff. I got a wild hair across my ass yesterday, and went to Ikea on the weekend (stupid of me cuz I hate crowds) but still braved to crowd to go get a cubby shelf for my kiddos room. Put shelf together and was like I know I can make this way cooler. So then my gears were grinding laying in bed. I decided my kid needed a loft bed. Lol. Not done yet, but it’s getting there. Still have to build steps and a platform off to the left side.
only into it for about $170 total so far. Because I know everyone loves pictures, Here are the pics.

 

[ArmyNiteRyder]

That's awesome! I can't find the link, but there used to be somewhere online that had instructions for building completely new Ikea furniture by mixing existing Ikea kits. I think what you built looks like one of the main concepts they used to share. Well done!

Thanks! I will have to try and research that.

 

[jchooley13]

Life has been full of stress and it's not gonna let up anytime soon. After 13 years with my place of employment they're drastically downsizing my plant, and of course I'm not one of the people that's going to be kept. +/- 2 weeks from Jan. 8th will be my last day. Unfortunately everyone is hiring right now and if I want my $13K severance pay I have to stay until the end. Hard to tell what work will be available come Jan. or if we'll be in another lockdown.

Plus side, I was able to save $200 a month by paying of cell phones, changing my plan and removing streaming services. Also, the girlfriend was able to find a place that will save another $100 a month in rent. That was a big stress with our rent going up and 99% of places not allowing German Shepard's.

With money being saved, time to pay down credit cards and bi-weekly pay still coming in after I'm let go, I know I'm in a relatively good situation, but can't seem to remove the weight I've been feeling.

Usually I take hikes and do some photography to take my mind of things but being locked in on 2nd shift and usually getting stuck with 3PM-3AM shifts have really taken that away from me. Oh well, one day at a time, one foot in front of the other and so on.